This year, when you are making your goals and resolutions, why don't you try something a little different, that you may find tremendously fulfilling. Instead of setting practical, monetary, and professional goals, decide to make goals to follow your heart. If you have spent your professional life living in your head, pushing yourself harder and harder, this may be a dramatic and welcome change. You can stop trying to prove yourself to the world, to your boss, to your customer, and focus on proving that you are good enough and content enough to yourself. You can show those that you care about that they matter more to you than working long hours, getting ahead, and making the bottom line.
1. When you follow your heart, you cease having regrets.
There is no greater truth that when we follow our heart, we cease to have regrets. While things may not always go in our favor, at least we will have tried. At least we will know the truth, and at least we know we will not live asking ourselves, "what if...?" You learn to trust your instincts and know that if you listen, your heart will guide you in the right direction.
2. Gain a newfound respect for yourself and from those you admire.
When we follow our hearts we may actually find that we develop a newfound respect for ourselves. Not only that, we may get the respect of those that we love and admire. Why is this? It is because we are now focusing on what truly matters instead of the trappings of things that have no meaning at all. It helps us clear out meaningless things for things that fill us with purpose and passion.
3. Get to know who you really are and what really matters to you.
When we start to follow our hearts, when we are willing to ask the tough questions about what really matters to us, we may get to know ourselves on a level that we never have before. We may surprise ourselves, when we are willing to ask the deep and tough questions, what we would choose if faced between what our heart and our intellect tell us to do. If we listen to our hearts, we may be surprised that we can find a way to make our hearts desire come to fruition.
4. Ensure that you are on the right and true path for yourself
When we listen to our hearts, we can ask ourselves if we are on our right and genuine path. If there is apathy or ambiguity for what we are currently doing, we know that somewhere and somehow, we have gone off course. That we are not on the path that we should be, the path of fulfillment, and the path of that is our true course. Our hearts will guide us towards our true direction, and our ultimate calling.
5. Allow yourself to forgive yourself and others.
When we listen to our heart, it tells us that it does not want us to hurt. It does not want us to hold grudges or be vengeful, as the person that we end up hurting most is ourselves. When we are honest with ourselves, we will realize that the person that we are struggling to forgive is likely not sitting around and spending their time thinking about us. They are living their lives, they have moved past us, and any history we shared. The same can be said of ourselves. We often have so many mistakes from our past that we struggle to let go of and forgive ourselves for, but we cannot go back and change them. We cannot erase them or control them. What we can control is everything that we do from this moment forward, so let it be a future of kindness to self and others. To focus on the present, forget the past, and to not worry about the future.
6. Learn to love yourself.
This may sound simple to some and impossible to others. People struggle with low self-confidence, social anxiety, and the belief that they are not good enough. When we follow our hearts, we truly begin to love ourselves. We start to believe that we are good enough, even great. We believe that we are exactly the person we should be. That everything that has happened to us, good or bad, has made us the person we are today. That each of the things that has happened was for a reason, taught us a lesson, and enabled us to develop some skill and knowledge we possess today. We are just as we should be, and we should love the person we are.
7. Learn to love others.
This can be the hardest step for many people. Many of us have been through some difficult times. We have been hurt, humiliated, and discounted. What we have to remember is that most of the time, we have no idea what is going on, or has gone on, in this other person's life. We do not know the pain and hardships that have made them the person they are. So, no matter what they do, the greatest gift we can give them and ourselves is to show them love. To show them that no matter what they do, you will not waiver, you will not be jaded, and you will not join in the negativity. You will only love and show kindness.
8. Learn to trust our intuition.
When we follow our hearts, we learn to trust our intuition. We are more in tune with what our hearts are telling us to do and what direction they are leading us. Sometimes it has been a long time since we have trusted our intuition, but having started to follow our hearts again, we clear a space to hear and listen to our intuition again. When we learn we can trust our intuition, we are more open to following our hearts.
9. Stop overthinking and go with what life throws us.
When we follow our hearts, we stop overthinking things. We are able to deal with the curve balls that life throws us more easily. Why is this? It is because we have started to believe that what should be is what will happen. We have faith and believe in our hearts that we can survive anything that comes our way, and that it has come our way for a reason.
10. Listen to your heart -- it knows your true desires.
To end, I find it important to highlight the concept of listening to your heart, because it knows your true desires. It knows your wants and needs, and what will genuinely make you fulfilled. When we are honest with ourselves, when we are willing to ask ourselves what is truly in our hearts, we open ourselves up to possibility. Possibility to fulfill our hearts desire, and to be who we were truly meant to be, doing what we were meant to do.
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Listen to your heart!
Looks like I am the first "no" surprisingly. Follow your heart! I think that deep down your heart knows what is best. Your mind is the logic gut you have, but I think your heart speaks volumes. When it comes to loving someone you should follow your heart. Your heart is what guides you and gives you the compassion. I understand why people do follow their mind, but at the same time I don't think they have enough reasoning to convince me to join their side. Love always triumphs over Logic. :) <3
Depends on the situation
There are time when you should listen to your heart and then there are times when you should listen to your mind, but I think both should be considered when making a decision. I think it is cruel to ignore your heart. I know people who have done it and have turned into insufferable people because they only went with what they thought. Your heart knows how you really feel and your brain is there to keep you in check.
I want to believe that listening to my heart will provide me with the most fulfilment in life and the right direction to follow.
I feel excited and alive when I follow my heart. However my mind questions how I will be able to afford such an endeavour. I know I am happiest when I do follow my heart, however financial security is also necessary. I am still not decided on this one, but like I said I want to believe it's true
The mind is quick but it doubts, the heart is slow but is true
Your mind is far too rational to guide you on the adventure that is life. Your mind sees - and even imagines - every possible trap door and wants to avoid it, even if it's not there. The mind is also quick to answer us when we ask ourselves a question, so we're more inclined to trust it more. All that means is the mind is good for balancing our checkbooks and tying our shoes.
The heart keeps all our feelings swirling together in a rhythm that only we understand to ourselves. The heart is also slow to answer. The heart may leap forward with a voice for certain things, but other times it has to absorb what is there before committing to any response, so out of impatience we go immediately to our mind.
Also, relying on the mind can keep us self-sustaining, but it can also keep us locked inside our own head. Following our heart makes us leap out into the world.
Which makes you happier?
Following one's heart leads to what they actually want, not what they think they want. People tend to overthink things. Minds are strange places. Sometime you can't even trust your own mind. But with your heart? You can always trust that. "Follow your heart." Don't overthink it. Just go with it.
Listen with the heart
I already know what is like not to listen to my heart don't make this mistake.Sorry to my heart,I made a promise to myself to listen to my heart.When I listen to my brain I let others take my decisions and in fact ignoring your heart is cruel.If we listen to the brain the chances of right decisions is made is less than 50% because our mind get influence by others and our heart cannot be influence by other people.From my experience our heart is important without it I feel heartless and live like a Half-dead and alive person.The heart is a part of who we are without it we cannot be our true self.
Listen to your mind.
I've seen so many people who have made unwise, emotionally charged decisions. Their passion negates any semblance of common sense they have left and led to impulsive, unthought-out, often later regretted choices.
If someone said, "I want to have babies, but I'm a drug addict and can't support myself, let alone children", would you suggest they listen to their heart (their maternal/paternal instincts and yearning for progeny) or their mind (their logical side that helps them understand the consequences of having a child in their condition)? Would you tell them to follow their heart and have children, even while knowing that the poor children will likely be born malnourished, drug addicted, and unhealthy? Would you still agree that one's decisions should be dictated by how they feel, even when they decide to bring multiple children into the world when knowing they can't afford to support them financially and emotionally?
Heart over mind
The mind is powerful and capable of so much but why? It doesn't have a why? Logically it does it for its own survival and for the survival of those like it. Surviving is cool but we are passed survival. We are in an age of living. If a man wants to travel the world with a backpack and a sign let him. If he wishes to climb buildings without gear, its his task. The heart wont help us survive but it will help us live. Live the dreams we had as kids and the adventures we see in out imagination. Your heart knows nest because it knows you. It knows what you want and where you want to be.
Im 19 and i chose my mind for some time. I was bored, miserable and successful. Started college at 14 and gonna graduate with my second degree before im 20. Id give it all up to live the moments i missed along the way. To see the things i never got to and be with the person I fell in love with. Happiness is something only your heart can lead you to. And if you aren't happy why are you doing it?
Listen to your heart
I believe that you should listen to your heart in any decisions dealing with love. However, I can understand why people would choose to trust their brains. Think about it, your mind is really what controls almost all of the processes in our body, which includes the heart. But, when you find the perfect person, you no longer can think, but only react based on what your heart decides. So, I believe you should always trust your heart.
Mind makes us irrational
You are not your mind.It is such a complicated machine that anyone can manipulate it.We human beings are supposed to be the rational being in this planet.But, this mind has made us irrational over time without our realization. For example - Other animals eat when they are hungry. But humans eat when their friends or relatives insist them to although they are not hungry.So who's more rational?Humans or animals? The bottom line is this irrationality is created by mind and only mind.So, if you want to become a rational being, don't listen your mind.